When charging for messages makes sense
Not every message deserves a price tag. A reply that settles a question or welcomes a newcomer is better free, because it makes the next paid moment more likely. Charge when You are giving something that took thought or preparation: a written task, a personal instruction, a piece of media made for one submissive, or a long answer that You would otherwise write for nothing.
A good test is whether You would be content to give the same effort to a stranger for free. If not, lock it. If You would, send it openly and save the lock for work You are proud of. The pricing guide covers the thinking behind a rate for live time, and the same principles hold for written work.
How the site's paid messages work
Messages sit in one inbox, organised as a thread per submissive. He writes to You in text, and nothing he sends carries a file or a price. When You reply, the form offers two extras: a lock with a price, and an option to attach a photo or video of Your own.
A locked message arrives for him as a sealed item showing only the price and, where You attached media, whether it is a photo or a video. Nothing is revealed until he pays. The unlock is a single transaction against his site balance: if the balance is short he is asked to add funds, and if he already unlocked it he is not charged twice. You can see in the thread which of Your messages were locked and what they cost.
A message can run to 2,000 characters. Locked prices run from $1 to $500, so the feature suits anything from a quick written instruction to a longer piece of bespoke work. Because the site is online only, everything You send is a written or recorded item inside the thread.
Who You can write to
The site deliberately blocks cold outreach. You can answer a submissive who has written to You first, and You can write to someone who currently holds a fan club subscription to You. A broadcast message You created does not open a door by itself, so once a subscription lapses You cannot start a new conversation with that person.
This is protective for You as well as for him. It means Your inbox only ever contains people who chose to approach You, and nobody can accuse You of unsolicited messages. If someone becomes abusive, block him, and a block works both ways so he cannot write again. The time-waster guide covers the patterns to watch for.
Pricing principles without numbers
Start with what a minute of Your live time costs and work outward. A locked message that took You ten minutes to write and record should not be priced far below ten minutes of private time, or You are discounting Your own work. Equally, a price far above what Your regulars spend in an evening will simply be ignored.
Anchor prices to value, not to guilt. Price a bespoke item higher than a generic one, price a repeat item lower than a first, and keep a small number of fixed price points that Your regulars come to recognise. Test for a month, note which prices are unlocked and which are left sealed, and adjust. Never invent a figure because another Mistress quotes one, since her costs, audience and style are not Yours.
Boundaries that keep it sustainable
A paid message is a product, and a product needs a limit. Decide in advance how many You will send in a day, which subjects You will write about, and what You will not do however much is offered. State the rules in Your profile so a newcomer reads them before he writes.
Keep every promise inside the thread. Do not agree to anything that depends on seeing him, because a private session here is one-way and Your messages carry only what You choose to send. Do not write medical or legal advice, and do not agree to meet anyone: nothing here is arranged outside the site. If a request crosses a line You set, decline it once, plainly, and move on without negotiating.
Keeping time-wasters out
Because You cannot message first, time-wasters cannot flood You with outbound replies, but they can still write at length for free. Set a rule for how You respond to a long message that asks for much and offers nothing: a short reply that points to Your tribute menu or fan club is usually enough.
Lock the valuable reply and leave the first answer short. A submissive who is serious will pay to read more, and one who is not will leave without costing You an hour. Keep a few template replies for common situations, such as a request for free content or a stranger asking for a discount, and edit each so it still sounds like You.
Keeping paid messages in proportion
Paid messages work best as one stream among several. Private time, tributes in Your public room, fan club tiers, ticketed shows and findom tools all appear in the dashboard, and a locked message can quietly lead a submissive towards any of them. Your own branding matters here: the voice of Your locked messages should be the voice of Your room.
If You are new, begin with live sessions and add locked messages once You have regulars who want to hear from You between shows. The guide to starting as a cam domme shows the first weeks, and the application page explains the terms and how to apply.
Questions people ask
Can a submissive send me photos in a message?
No. Messages to You carry plain text only, with no photos, video or files, and he cannot attach a price. Only You can attach a photo or video to a reply, and You choose whether to lock it. This keeps Your inbox free of unwanted images.
What is the minimum and maximum price for a locked message?
A locked message can be priced from $1 up to $500. The price is Yours to set each time, and the submissive sees it on the sealed message before he decides. If he does not have enough balance he is asked to add funds first.
Can I start a conversation with someone who has not written to me?
Not unless he holds an active fan club subscription to You. Otherwise a conversation begins when the submissive writes first. The rule keeps cold outreach out of the site and means every thread is with someone who approached You.
Do I keep the money from an unlocked message?
An unlock is paid from the submissive's site balance to Yours as part of the same transaction, and You keep at least 70% of what a submissive spends, or 80% on those You brought Yourself. The dashboard shows the current split and Your earnings.
How do I stop a time-waster?
Answer briefly, point to Your tribute menu or fan club, and lock anything that takes real effort. If he turns abusive or keeps pushing a boundary, block him; a block works both ways, so he cannot write to You again.
Should every reply be locked?
No. Free replies build trust and make paid ones more likely. Reserve locks for work that took preparation, such as a written task, a bespoke piece of media or a long personal instruction, and keep quick answers and greetings open.