Destroy Dick December: the joke, and a December you can enjoy

Destroy Dick December appeared in 2017 as a joking answer to No Nut November. Where November asks you to abstain, the December meme pretends to ask for the opposite, and it is usually passed around as a caption or a reply to someone who has just announced that their November streak has ended. The standard line is that anyone who fell in November should simply carry on into December.

It has no organiser, no scorecard and no referee. People share it the way they share any seasonal in-joke, with a smirk and a screenshot, and most of those who repeat it have no intention of doing anything of the kind. Treat it as humour that grew a name, in the same family as the denial challenge described in the No Nut November guide.

The version that circulates uses an escalating count: one occasion on 1 December, two on 2 December, and so on, ending with thirty-one on 31 December. Do the sum and the month ends in absurdity, which is the point. It is written to be impossible, in the way a pub boast is impossible, and the humour lies in how far it overshoots anything a body or a calendar could stand.

This page does not recommend that rule, and nobody running a sensible game would set it. Pushing through soreness to hit a number is how people end up with a bad week for the sake of a caption. If you want the spirit of the date, which is a December full of sexual attention, you can have that without the arithmetic.

Kink communities borrow internet challenges and give them an owner. Here the owner is a Mistress, and the change is simple: the count no longer escalates on its own, because She decides what each day holds. A man who would never obey a meme will happily obey a woman whose voice he finds hard to disobey.

The result looks very different from the joke. Some days are JOI, when She tells you how to touch yourself and how fast. Some are edging days, others are countdowns, others are a day of nothing at all, and the finish arrives only when She says so. You trade a number for a plan, and the plan is the part that makes it feel like femdom rather than a dare.

Agree the shape in writing before 1 December, and keep it modest. A good month has more quiet days than busy ones:

1. Choose two or three active days a week at most, and leave the rest as rest days with no sexual activity required.
2. Alternate the type of active day: a JOI session, then an edging day, then a countdown, so that no single kind wears you out.
3. Keep every session to a length you can enjoy, and end it early if you are tired, sore or bored.
4. Put one full rest week in the middle if you want one, and treat it as part of the plan, not a concession.
5. Fix the ending for 31 December in advance, whether that is a finish on Her word, a ruin or a month that closes without release.
6. Write the stop rule at the top: soreness or pain ends the day, and you tell Her in the next report.

The sensible version rests on two plain rules. Rest days are not a failure, because a month in which you are never too sore to enjoy yourself is the one you will want to repeat. And the moment anything feels sore or painful, you stop for the day and, if it does not settle, for as long as it takes.

Nothing here is a health claim in either direction. General health sites describe some temporary discomfort as possible after long arousal without release and say it passes, but they also say to stop if anything hurts and to see a doctor if something seems wrong or does not clear. Follow that advice, and let nothing in a game outrank your own stop word.

Everything here happens online and nothing is arranged in person. Message a Mistress before December with your dates and limits, then ask what She would plan; the JOI cams page shows how instruction sessions work, and the edging cams page covers the climb and the stop. The cum countdown page explains the ending most people save for the last evening.

In a private with one of our Mistresses you only watch and listen: your camera and microphone stay off and no chat box opens, so She leads from a plan and you keep each instruction on your honour. Your report afterwards is written, because messages carry text only. Private time is billed per minute at Her own rate in US dollars, drawn from a balance topped up in crypto, and public rooms are mostly free to enter. Being seen by Her takes cam2cam, a paid extra found only in LiveJasmin partner rooms marked ↗.

If a month of loose instructions feels vague, a calendar gives it a spine. The femdom advent calendar lists twenty-four daily tasks that run up to Christmas Eve and include rest days, so it can sit inside December with little adjustment. The edging challenge guide offers a four-week build for anyone who wants a progression, and the ruined orgasm guide describes one of the endings She may choose.

Whichever you pick, keep the first week gentle. A plan that begins at full intensity on 1 December has nowhere to go and every reason to end by the tenth.